Rachel Figuroa Levin says that while motherhood has aged her, she doesn’t mind (Kidstock/Getty Images )

Urban Baby Blog: Motherhood has “aged” me at 27 – and it’s not bad

I recently downloaded an app that lets you see what you posted on social media on that day in years past. It’s kind of like a personal “on this day in history” thing. It’s fun to look back, especially at pictures of baby Adi that I had forgotten about. I have maybe 10 years on social media, 8 of which are on platforms that this app supports. Usually I look at pictures of me seven years ago and laugh, but yesterday I had a mini meltdown.

Yesterday was my birthday. I spent my morning looking at Rachel birthday parties over the years. The first one was at a dive bar. The second one was at the same dive bar. My birthdays used to be wild and crazy and awesome. Then I got pregnant. My pregnant birthday I went out to dinner. The next year I got a baby sitter so I could celebrate like I used to but looking back it turns out I didn’t do anything crazy. The year after that I went to a bar a couple of blocks away and while I got drunk, I didn’t do anything crazy. I went home after and fell asleep.

This year I went to a wine bar with some friends and had an heirloom tomato salad. Wepa.

I thought of switching it to the bar I went to last year, but I didn’t feel like it. Age isn’t a number —  it’s a state of mind. I have outgrown bars, even at my relatively young age. I’ll do a restaurant with a bar, but a place with no food? Ain’t nobody got time for that.

I didn’t have a single “birthday shot.” I didn’t get any piercings. I didn’t dance at a loud club that made me deaf for the rest of the week. Next year I’m probably going to spend my birthday with my husband and daughter doing something quiet.

Having a baby has aged me. Most 27 (OMG I’m 27!) year olds don’t have kids — especially in New York City. They aren’t too old for clubbing. I ended up with my wine and heirloom tomatoes because that’s what I wanted. I don’t want to run around looking for trouble, I want to relax with my family.

In fact, a couple of days ago my husband and I decided to buy a little cottage upstate to spend weekends and summers at. Quiet weekends and quiet summers. The panic attack I had looking at myself get old on my iPhone was quickly replaced with a calm happiness. If I could tell 20-year-old Rachel what 27-year-old Rachel was doing, I think she would be pleased. She’d be disappointed that I took out most of my face piercings for the sake of employment (and selling out to “the man”) but I’m at a good place. I have a good kid, an awesome husband, I own an apartment, I own an upstate getaway, and my car isn’t bad either. Not bad for 27. Happy birthday to me 🙂

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Rachel Figueroa-Levin is a soapmaker, cofounder and educator at Urban Babywearing, a hyperlocal Inwood blogger and organizer, a political/life/religion/parenting satirist, and all around trouble maker.  She is also the creator of New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg’s Spanish-speaking alter ego @elbloombito.  You can reach her via twitter @Jewyorican.

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